If your needs were unmet as a child, it can feel almost impossible to trust that they matter now. But just because no one paid attention to them when you were a child, it doesn’t mean that has to continue, you can break that pattern.
You can move forward and heal - not by pretending the past didn’t happen, but by learning to meet your needs with care, compassion, and support.
You can learn to soothe and nurture the part of you that should have been held as a child.
Through therapy like EMDR you can process your experiences and heal your younger parts.
If this spoke to you, know that this is the work I help clients with every day. You can reclaim the love, safety, and connection you were always worthy of.
DM or comment consultation to learn more through a free initial chat.
PS. I think my new dog Anka may feature heavily in reels from now onwards as she doesn’t leave my heels very much!
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Trauma recovery isn’t just about understanding what happened - it’s about helping your body feel safe again.
If talk therapy hasn’t worked for you in the past, it might be because your nervous system needs more than insight. My approach is trauma-informed, body-aware, and grounded in evidence.
If this resonates, l offer a free initial consultation to explore how we can work together - no pressure, just a conversation.
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What if the traits you’ve always seen as flaws... were actually survival strategies?
People-pleasing, perfectionism, shutting down — these are often not “just who you are.”
They’re adaptations your nervous system made to keep you safe in environments where safety wasn’t guaranteed.
• People-pleasing can be a fawn response - a way to prevent conflict or avoid abandonment.
• Perfectionism often stems from hypervigilance - scanning for danger, making everything “just right” to stay in control.
• Shutting down is usually a freeze response
— your body’s way of protecting you when escape didn’t feel possible.
These aren’t character flaws. They’re signs your system was doing its best to survive overwhelming situations.
The work isn’t to shame or “fix” these parts of you — it’s to meet them with understanding and gently show your body that it’s safe now.
You’re not broken. You’re adapted. And healing is possible. Want to know how? Then DM or comment consultation to have a free chat about how my clinic can support you.
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